Being attracted to someone does not necessarily mean that we are “sexually” attracted to them. Would you hop into the bed with every attractive person you see? Of course not! Yes, we can all point out the “beautiful” or “attractive” people in the room, but that doesn’t guarantee we are going to be 100% attracted to them. For example, your friend may be completely love-struck by someone you think resembles a blend between Shrek and Quasimodo. Why is that? Why are we attracted to one person over another? What draws us to certain people, aside from the obvious physical appearance?
This can be explained by “Laws of Attraction”—the concept that “like attracts like.” Positive attracts positive and negative attracts negative. The reciprocity principle and the uncertainty principle also play a part in our attraction toward potential partners.
The Principles of Reciprocity and Uncertainty
There are two elements in the Laws of Attraction that make it a bit complicated. In the reciprocity principle, there are clear signs of interest from both sides—an attraction progresses and a relationship grows from there.
In the uncertainty principle, a person finds out another “might” like them and becomes focused on discovering the answer. They begin to interpret actions as explanations to support that possibility. From there, the focus begins to translate as desire and longing without truly knowing them. It’s complicated but true.
Those dealing with the reciprocity principle feel happier, more content, and often times make a smoother transition into a relationship. Those dealing with the uncertainty principle feel higher levels of attraction but lower levels of happiness. The uncertainty may become emotionally draining.
The Principle That Like Attracts Like
From the “like attracts like” perspective, the attitude we have can determine the type of people we attract. You’ve seen it before: a positive or negative attitude can be picked up on from across the room. It can be from our posture, hand movements, a tone of voice, facial expressions, and so on. We are very much in tune with body language and nonverbal communication. We make subconscious displays of our attitude that are picked up by those who can relate. This is why we often find ourselves in the same types of relationships. With that said, attracting your soulmate may be easier than you think if you are channeled in to “what makes you tick.”
Three Ways to Use the Laws of Attraction
Here are three ways to use the Laws of Attraction in your favor and attract the best partners for you.
1. Stay True to Yourself
You can’t attract the right person if you’re sending out false signals. Be authentic and genuine. Refuse to send false positives.
2. Love Who You Are
If you need someone else to make you feel great about yourself, you’re going to attract the wrong person. Acknowledge your greatness and lead with it.
3. Maintain a Positive Attitude
If you accept yourself and love all that you are, it’s hard not to have a positive attitude. This will not only attract more positive relationships, but it will also increase your self-respect and help in selecting the right person.
By understanding the power in the Laws of Attraction, you understand that you have control in who you attract by always presenting your best self. If you work within the Laws of Attraction, positive attractions and relationships will likely follow.