Build up the Bond: Strengthening Father and Son Relationships

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The connection between a father and a son is wonderfully complex. Numerous studies show how critical a father’s role is when it comes to shaping and defining a young life. Children with actively involved dads are less likely to misbehave or develop psychological problems. Sons who are attached to their fathers are also able to handle stressful situations better. Developing healthy father-son relationships early on can lead to benefits that will last a lifetime. As per Ed Kopko’s book, “Project Bold Life: The Proven Formula for Taking on Challenges and Achieving Happiness and Success”: “More than anything else in our lives, being able to connect with others, and enjoying a sense of belonging, enhances our well-being. As a result, investing in relationships and the skills required to maintain them are important.”

No matter their age, boys usually model themselves after their fathers. But despite the strong link between boys and their dads, there are still many who struggle with their father and son relationships. They sometimes find it difficult to relate to one another due to their different interests. In some cases, they may feel competitive with each other. For others, unmet expectations on both sides create a gap. Another reason for difficult father and son relationships might be the lack of communication.

Forging a strong father-son relationship can be hard work, but the lasting, loving bond formed can make all the effort worthwhile. Here are some tips to start strengthening father and son relationships:

Schedule a regular one-on-one time.

Create a schedule for spending time with your son, and stick to that schedule. If you choose to spend time with him once a week, make sure to see it through no matter what. There should be no distractions during your one-on-one sessions. Devote all your attention to him. This way, he’ll know that you’re serious about working on your relationship with him and that you care enough to want to get to know him personally.

Find common hobbies and shared interests.

Even if you have a lot of differences, you can still develop a strong father-son relationship. Take some time to discover what activities you can enjoy doing together. Do you both like sports? Do you both enjoy action movies? Are you both fascinated with geography? Sharing a hobby or an interest can give you plenty of opportunities to bond and to even teach important lessons. Enjoying some fun quality time can really help your relationship grow.

Overcome challenges together.

One of the most important skills a father can teach his child is problem-solving. It can also help develop healthy father-son relationships. When your son comes to you with his problems, try to solve them together. Show him that you are there for him in times of trouble.

Conversely, try to ask for his help from time to time, even with simple challenges. Let him help around the house and let him contribute solutions to common household repairs. You can also solve problems together by taking on puzzles or by playing board games. When you overcome challenges together, your son will understand that he can always rely on you for help. Moreover, by asking for his help, you will also be able to empower him.

Talk about everything and really listen to each other.

One of the secrets to stronger father and son relationships is effective communication. Try to have conversations about difficult topics such as sex and relationships. This will help keep your son from getting their knowledge from other sources who may not share your values. Always ask him how he’s doing or what he’s up to so that he’ll be more comfortable in opening up. In addition, try to listen intently without judgment. This will teach your son to do the same and listen to you as well.

Practice loving discipline.

Your son is bound to make mistakes in life, just as you are. Instead of yelling, calmly ask for his side of the story. Explain why you are disappointed and discuss what he should do next time. After that, make sure to show your son that you love him even when he did something wrong. Remind him that you’re disciplining him for his own good. Discipline should never get in the way of a good father-son relationship.

Be more involved.

The most important factor in building strong father and son relationships is time. Be present in as many areas of your son’s life as possible. Attend recitals, cheer during sports matches and pick him up from parties. Support him in any way you can. Your presence has the power to inspire him and help him do his best in all his endeavors. Likewise, your participation in various structured experiences can create more opportunities for you and your son to grow closer.

Focus on the positives.

A positive, nurturing attitude is a must to form a deep bond with anyone, including your son. Every day, he is exposed to judgment from the world around him. He needs a supportive family who appreciates his strengths and efforts. Celebrate his accomplishments. Your constant encouragement as a father can help him overlook negativity, and it will teach him to find the bright side of any situation instead. Let your son know that you’re proud of him. At the end of the day, this will forge a father-son relationship built on trust.

About the Author

Dawna is a mom of two young kids, puppy lover, ice cream lover, chocolate lover, and lover of any ice cream with chunks of chocolate in it. She is the author of seven books, a business owner, certified health coach, motivational speaker, and creator of the 5-Day Detox and the 14-Day Clean-Eating Program. Dawna appears regularly on local and national television. She has appeared on the Today show, Martha, MSNBC, HSN, and morning news programs on NBC, CBS, ABC, and Fox. Dawna is a highly sought-after speaker and has done speaking engagements for Chobani, Disney, American Heart Association, Mass Mutual, Wharton Business School, Women’s Entertainment Television, PGA Tour, Super Bowl Leadership Forum, Susan G. Komen, and many more.
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